This Insidious Dementia
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Here is a guide for caregivers for dealing with dementia and getting through the holidays. As a dementia caregiver myself, I found this time of the year to be very tough. I created this guide so it’s easier for you.
Why are holidays difficult for a person with Alzheimers
First, let’s discuss why the holiday season is tough.
The season throws off their normal routine. Routine builds security and comfort. A change in that brings on anxiety.
Your loved one may not understand what is going on and what all the decorations are for.
There’s a tree in the room. Imagine what your loved one is thinking – How did it get there? Why is it there? What does it mean?
They may not understand what all the decorations are for.
They might experience anxiety due to the chaos of a holiday gathering; the clutter of presents, people and decorations; the noise, and by any flickering lights.
They may not like loud crowds/groups of people, children running around.
How to deal with Dementia during the Holidays
Now let’s talk about how YOU, as the caregiver, can make the holiday season less stressful. Here are some tips for you.
Don’t plan or take on too much. You’re only 1 person. You can only do so much, especially if you also have family to take care of.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, relatives or other family members.
Take care of yourself. If you are not healthy, then you can’t take care of your loved one and they depend upon you.
If you are going to have a holiday gathering, plan for one that’s during a good time for your loved one – probably not an evening time when they’re more susceptible to “sundowning.”
If you plan to have people over to your house, make sure there is a quiet room that your loved one can go to when/if needed.
If you have family coming in from out of town, talk to them ahead of time to let them know how your loved one is and best ways to interact, etc.
If you have family traditions, involve your loved one but don’t overtax them.
Decorate slowly over time rather than all on one day.
dementia holiday tips
Let’s talk now about how to make the holidays better for your dementia loved one.
Put decorations up over time so your loved one gets “used” to them and their environment hasn’t suddenly changed. If you put out all the decorations at one time, it might lead the person to think they aren’t living in the right place which then leads to the possibility of wandering away from home.
Have your loved one help with the decorating.
Try not to rearrange the room (ie. put furniture in different places) in order to put up a Christmas tree. This may lead to confusion and frustration.
Keep to the same daily routine for your loved one as much as possible.
If you change daily dishes over to Christmas plates, take care that they are not ones with patterns as that may disguise food or be distracting to your loved one. It’s best to keep it to a solid color plate.
Watch where you put extension cords. Don’t put them out in areas where they would be walking over them.
Avoid scattered holiday rugs – that’s an accident waiting to happen.
And something that you wouldn’t normally think of but avoid putting out holiday shaped soap containers – ie. – no Christmas tree shaped soap dispensers.
What are dementia friendly christmas decorations
Before we talk about decorations that are friendly, let’s first talk about ones that are NOT friendly such as –
Twinkling/blinking lights
Real candle flames
Breakable glass ornaments
Cookie ornaments-ie Gingerbread or the dried dough ones
Life-sized characters with sound and motion
Nothing with voice activated movement or sound
Things that look like real food, candy or fruit. No red berries.
Avoid food scented items such as cinnamon scented pine cones.
Clear up the clutter – keep it simple
So, what kind of decorations would be good? Hare are some ideas.
Wooden reindeer, wooden ornaments
Fabric animals and other fabric ornaments
Be aware that decorations might “walk off” somewhere. So don’t put out ones that you would really miss if they were lost/misplaced.
Paper chains on tree
Non breakable ornaments
Dementia friendly holiday activities
Here are some ways to get people with Alzheimer’s or Dementia involved during the holiday season.
Make cards
Work together addressing and sending cards. I would address the envelope and have my mom sign the card and add notes.
Make wreaths
Holiday baking
Decorating cookies
Take them out to look at holiday light displays
Listen to music
Go Christmas caroling or sing some carols
Attend a holiday concert – However, be aware of length – my mom would get anxious and fret about who was “home with the baby” – so you may have to leave early.
Watch holiday movies
Board games that would be appropriate for their skills
Create paper chains
String Christmas colored beads, however, watch to make sure these are not swallowed.
String garlands of popcorn – I would be cautious about this one. While it sounds fun and your loved one will probably enjoy eating the popcorn, I would be more concerned with what might happen down the road. Once the strand is on the tree, will your loved one attempt to eat it?
Here are 2 holiday activities available in my Etsy shop. The photo on the left is for a journal to record the holiday memories of your loved one. The photo on the right is a collection of line art trees that they can “decorate.”
Continuing the list of dementia friendly holiday activities –
15. Wrap presents. Speaking from personal experience, wrapping was frustrating for my mom. By the time we wrapped several presents, she was so confused with who got what present and what was in it, etc.
16. Make hot chocolate
17. Make crepe paper flowers for the tree.
18. Work on a holiday jigsaw puzzle with larger pieces like this one.
20. Christmas Activity Kits like these. The wooden light bulbs are reminiscent of those old light bulb strands. Are you old enough to remember those? Paint them and wrap some cord or twine around the bulbs or hot glue them to the cord and you’ve got a light strand for the tree! Try this kit. Or try this one.
And if you still need some more activities to try, check out the blog post below and my Etsy store for other holiday related items.
You can make the holidays a pleasant time for both the caregiver and the person with dementia. It just takes planning and some careful consideration!
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Your post ‘Why Are Holidays Difficult for a Person with Alzheimer’s?’ offers an insightful and compassionate look at the challenges faced by individuals with Alzheimer’s during the holiday season. The way you address the sensory overload, changes in routine, and emotional complexity is both informative and empathetic. This post provides invaluable understanding for caregivers and families, helping them better navigate the holidays with patience and care, ensuring a more peaceful experience for their loved ones.