Thank you so much for this. I inherited a big box of very old photos after my Dad passed. They include photos that belonged to both sets of my grandparents too – I guess both he and Mum also didn’t really know what to do with them all either. My sisters decided I was the ‘ family historian’ as I’m interested in family history so I have the box. I’ve now have to downsize and I need to get on with this. Your post was so helpful. I feel I have been given permission to throw all the photos that have no name and that neither me or my sisters recognise. We have tried to label all the ones we can. Now I can sort them with your suggestions and hopefully end up with a smaller box with memories that mean something to me and our wider family. On another point, I read your quote about people either being caregivers or will one day need a caregiver. My sister and I cared for our Dad for many years. We loved him dearly. Our Mum passed away at age 57. Your post has prompted me to go through and label our own family photos so this task will be easier when their time comes to go through our stuff. So thanks from the future generation too.
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What do you do with all the old family photographs when you’re trying to settle an estate?
One of the first tasks I started with, in settling Mom’s estate, was the collection of her photo albums and what was I going to do with the old family photos.
Let me give you a little background so you know where I’m coming from. I moved back home in 2011 because I was aware that Mom needed help. (More on my mom here.) As with most children, when they move back home, they bring their “stuff” with them. Some of my stuff fit in my room, some in other places in the house and the rest went into storage.
Now, a few years later, with a potential move in the near future and the prospect of having to “show” a house, the clutter of my stuff plus Mom’s had to be weeded through.
The old family photos
The first task in my downsizing process was to tackle the family photos. There are some downsizing people that suggest you not start with photos because it’s too emotional so soon after the passing of a loved one. I found it kind of cathartic reliving the memories that the photos evoked.
My main reason for starting with the photos, I guess, was practicality. My mother had 12 photo albums. Twelve! She was very adamant that if we ever had a fire or had to leave the house in a hurry those 12 albums were going out the door with her. Taking 12 albums of photos plus my own with me to wherever I end up moving to is not in my plan for the future. Sorry, Mom, but I don’t want to schlep those 12 albums along with all my stuff.
There were actually more than 12 photo albums. Maybe 10, if not more years ago, I pulled out the oldest albums to go through. You know, the puny 3″ by 2″ black and white photos that were anchored into those little black triangles that detached over time. I wanted to go through those pictures with Mom before she forgot who people were.
Mom and I worked on identifying people in the photos. Those that neither or us recognized and with no notes on them got thrown away. The rest I saved and are now in a bin along with other mementos of Mom and Dad.
multi-task while watching tv
So here’s how I worked my way through those 12 photo albums.
You can sort photos while you watch TV. It does take a while so don’t expect that you’ll go through this quickly. I just went through one album picture by picture. As I pulled out each picture from the plastic sleeve, I sorted it into piles – a throw-away pile, a pile for myself, one for each of my brothers, and one for each of my nieces and my nephew. I wanted to make sure that each niece and nephew had plenty of pictures of their Grammy!
how i reduced the amount of family photos
That throw-away pile I referred to earlier – this was my process of elimination for that pile.
Mom and Dad had taken several group trips and there were many photos from those trips. Most did not have either my mom or my dad in the picture. I threw those out. I do not feel guilty – it wasn’t my trip so they aren’t my memories. Therefore, no reason to keep those photos. (You could, however, hang onto them to celebrate that your mom and dad got to go on a trip of their lifetime to ??? or keep for a photo book of Mom and Dad’s travels.) I hung on to a pic of Mom and Dad in front of the Eiffel Tower. I like knowing that they were able to take a trip overseas and to see such an exciting place.
Also thrown out were pictures that were dark or didn’t have enough lighting to even tell who was in the picture! Those that were taken from too far away also bit the dust.
There were pictures of old neighbors, former bridge partners of my mom and dad and pictures of parties they had at the house. Sadly, most of the people have passed away. I pulled a couple of them out but the rest I threw out.
Christmas tree pictures went into the garbage pile. I think there was a picture from every year! Since we decorated the tree the same way every year with the addition of 1 or 2 new ornaments, the tree looked pretty much the same each year. I kept a few but didn’t see any reason to keep all of those photographs.
The outside scenery shots of snow and fall leaves went into the pile. I think Mom took a picture of the same tree across the street every fall! She really liked the fall colors and this tree looks especially nice in the fall. (I did keep one of those!) As for the snow, how many pictures of snow on the railing of the back deck do you need! Sure, the blizzard of ’78 photos I’ll keep but the rest of the pictures of the snow on the driveway and back deck can go out the door! I do not want the memories of shoveling snow!
I did hang on to the pictures of the house and the yard that showed the change over time and what the flower beds look like in the spring. I found it very interesting to see how much the house and yard have changed over my lifetime of living in the house.
Get my free checklist for sorting photos.
Marie Kondo suggests that you hold the photo in your hand and ask yourself if it sparks joy in your heart. Well, that’s basically what I did when I sorted the family photos. If I had an emotional reaction to the photo, I kept it.
the end result
I managed to get the 12 albums down to 2 photo boxes. Not bad. That’s so much more manageable and there are still plenty of photos that I can look back on and relive those memories of my younger days and laugh at the hairdos and clothing styles! I still have photos of Mom and Dad that mean the most to me.
Rather than putting the photos back into multiple photo albums, I decided to store them chronologically in photo boxes that I purchased at Hobby Lobby. Ordering them by year makes more sense to me but you can order your photos by theme, event, person or era. I like the photo boxes because they hold more and take up less space than the albums.
Amazon has some nice photo boxes – like these –
Die Cuts with a View Photo Box, Gray Geo with Rose Gold Foil
cold and callous or practical?
My process of downsizing the collection of photos might seem cold and unfeeling to some of you but sometimes practicality needs to rule. Remember, you are downsizing, which means “to reduce in number, cut back” and that is what I did. I reduced the number of photos to hang on to yet I still have a wonderful collection of family memories.
magnetic albums
By the way, this is a good time to get those photographs out of the old magnetic kind of albums. You know, the kind that you just pull back the clear page and place the photo down on the page that seems to be a little sticky. I found that photos kept in that kind of album yellowed over time to the point where some were unrecognizable. If you have any of these don’t even hesitate – take your pictures out of those albums and throw those albums out.
Do i regret throwing out the family photos?
No. I don’t regret throwing out all those family pictures. What I do regret is that I didn’t go over those oldest photo albums a long time ago with Mom long before her memory became wonky. I feel like I missed out on a lot of family history.
alternatives to photo albums
If you’re squeamish about throwing out the old photos there are alternatives. You can send your photos out to businesses that will digitize them for you. If you have lots of time, you can scan or upload your photos to a jump drive or to cloud storage. Local historical societies might like your really old photographs.
Please comment below if you’ve had to sort through old family photos after a loved one passes. How did it go? Feel free to add any tips or suggestions that you would pass on to others.
19 Comments on What to Do with the Old Family Photographs
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19 Comments on What to Do with the Old Family Photographs
You are so welcome and thanks for the kind words. You will most likely feel guilty throwing pictures out but it sounds like you’ve done your “due dilligence” in trying to identify them. It does take time to go through pictures so don’t plan on doing it all at once.
I’ve been searching for a very long time for how to deal with all the boxes and albums of photos I’ve inherited from 3 different family members that have passed. Your pin has given me the best solution! Thank you! And I’m sure my daughter will thank you someday when I’m gone!
Glad I can help. It certainly was a chore. Good memories, but a chore nonetheless. Good luck.
Did you give your siblings, nephews, nieces, etc. the chance to go through the “trash” pile if they wanted?
Good question. I have 3 older brothers-they didn’t care about those old photos. I did ask them if they were interested in any of the photos a few times and they weren’t. Again, most of what was thrown out wouldn’t have interested them anyways. And I did give each of them a pile of photos.
I have 10 plus photo albums. It’s sad but all the family that knows some of those people have died. I have photos of family members, should I mail them to there siblings? It’s overwhelming. I even have photos of my brothers ex and there children. Most of the people I don’t even know. Help
You’re right Karen, it is overwhelming. Can you reach out and ask if the people want the photos and then you can send them? I scanned some photos and put them on a thumb drive if you have that capability, especially on the old black and white photos where the quality wasn’t so good anymore.
I inherited all of the photos from both sets of grandparents. I had already been made aware of who many of the people were because I took the time to sit with my grands and ask about each person and then label them. I was the weird kid who started my genealogy research at about age 8.
When all was said and done, I put the unlabeled ones in an album and took it with me to ask my dad’s cousins and others if they would glance through the album to see if they could identify anyone. I then labeled those!
The ones that looked fancy, snazzy, or otherwise appealing were set aside and used in my art journals on tags, pockets, and pages. The rest were disposed of.
Originally, I began separating them by family group with the intention of mailing them out to the kids or grandkids of the subject, but then common sense kicked in and I came to my senses.
I am making a family history book for each of my kids. It will include a few photos that will matter to them, and will be mostly direct line ancestors for them and their respective spouses.Oh, Wow. That’s so great that you have that history and took the time to document it. I hope your children and grandchildren will appreciate it someday.
I’ve been scanning all of the photos my mom had in albums and my grandparents had in albums. I’m one of two people who will know who some of these people are. I’ve made a pile of photos to go to my one remaining cousin. I to am ready to throw out a lot of photos.
Thank you for your comments. My mother in law is now in memory care and we are going through this process. She has good days and bad. Long term memory is better than short term. This will give me ideas on how to process as I move forward with downsizing the many pictures she has.
Thank you for the comment and I’m sorry it took so long to reply. Going through the pictures is definitely a chore.
I recently decided to go through not only my mother’s pictures, but mine as well. I purchased a an app that made digitizing all of them very easy.
I went through every album to sort them out. I threw away many bags of them. 5,000 plus; the pictures are in the cloud.So sorry for the delayed response. Comments were not coming through. Can you tell us what app you used?
When you digitize photos, can you add notes so that you know latwrywho or what is in the photos?
Yes, you can. My first instinct would be to name the photo once I go to save it to at least put a person’s name on it or place. There are ways to do it per a quick Google search so that’s where I would start looking.
Something to be aware of: some of the photos that are too dark or too faded can be brought back to life using ChatGPT. That doesn’t mean you need to keep every photo, but sometimes the only photo you have of a person might be that faded or dark one.
Thanks for that idea. I wouldn’t have thought of using AI for that.
Thank you so much for this. I inherited a big box of very old photos after my Dad passed. They include photos that belonged to both sets of my grandparents too – I guess both he and Mum also didn’t really know what to do with them all either. My sisters decided I was the ‘ family historian’ as I’m interested in family history so I have the box. I’ve now have to downsize and I need to get on with this. Your post was so helpful. I feel I have been given permission to throw all the photos that have no name and that neither me or my sisters recognise. We have tried to label all the ones we can. Now I can sort them with your suggestions and hopefully end up with a smaller box with memories that mean something to me and our wider family. On another point, I read your quote about people either being caregivers or will one day need a caregiver. My sister and I cared for our Dad for many years. We loved him dearly. Our Mum passed away at age 57. Your post has prompted me to go through and label our own family photos so this task will be easier when their time comes to go through our stuff. So thanks from the future generation too.
You are so welcome and thanks for the kind words. You will most likely feel guilty throwing pictures out but it sounds like you’ve done your “due dilligence” in trying to identify them. It does take time to go through pictures so don’t plan on doing it all at once.
I’ve been searching for a very long time for how to deal with all the boxes and albums of photos I’ve inherited from 3 different family members that have passed. Your pin has given me the best solution! Thank you! And I’m sure my daughter will thank you someday when I’m gone!
Glad I can help. It certainly was a chore. Good memories, but a chore nonetheless. Good luck.
Did you give your siblings, nephews, nieces, etc. the chance to go through the “trash” pile if they wanted?
Good question. I have 3 older brothers-they didn’t care about those old photos. I did ask them if they were interested in any of the photos a few times and they weren’t. Again, most of what was thrown out wouldn’t have interested them anyways. And I did give each of them a pile of photos.
I have 10 plus photo albums. It’s sad but all the family that knows some of those people have died. I have photos of family members, should I mail them to there siblings? It’s overwhelming. I even have photos of my brothers ex and there children. Most of the people I don’t even know. Help
You’re right Karen, it is overwhelming. Can you reach out and ask if the people want the photos and then you can send them? I scanned some photos and put them on a thumb drive if you have that capability, especially on the old black and white photos where the quality wasn’t so good anymore.
I inherited all of the photos from both sets of grandparents. I had already been made aware of who many of the people were because I took the time to sit with my grands and ask about each person and then label them. I was the weird kid who started my genealogy research at about age 8.
When all was said and done, I put the unlabeled ones in an album and took it with me to ask my dad’s cousins and others if they would glance through the album to see if they could identify anyone. I then labeled those!
The ones that looked fancy, snazzy, or otherwise appealing were set aside and used in my art journals on tags, pockets, and pages. The rest were disposed of.
Originally, I began separating them by family group with the intention of mailing them out to the kids or grandkids of the subject, but then common sense kicked in and I came to my senses.
I am making a family history book for each of my kids. It will include a few photos that will matter to them, and will be mostly direct line ancestors for them and their respective spouses.
Oh, Wow. That’s so great that you have that history and took the time to document it. I hope your children and grandchildren will appreciate it someday.
I’ve been scanning all of the photos my mom had in albums and my grandparents had in albums. I’m one of two people who will know who some of these people are. I’ve made a pile of photos to go to my one remaining cousin. I to am ready to throw out a lot of photos.
Thank you for your comments. My mother in law is now in memory care and we are going through this process. She has good days and bad. Long term memory is better than short term. This will give me ideas on how to process as I move forward with downsizing the many pictures she has.
Thank you for the comment and I’m sorry it took so long to reply. Going through the pictures is definitely a chore.
I recently decided to go through not only my mother’s pictures, but mine as well. I purchased a an app that made digitizing all of them very easy.
I went through every album to sort them out. I threw away many bags of them. 5,000 plus; the pictures are in the cloud.
So sorry for the delayed response. Comments were not coming through. Can you tell us what app you used?
When you digitize photos, can you add notes so that you know latwrywho or what is in the photos?
Yes, you can. My first instinct would be to name the photo once I go to save it to at least put a person’s name on it or place. There are ways to do it per a quick Google search so that’s where I would start looking.
Something to be aware of: some of the photos that are too dark or too faded can be brought back to life using ChatGPT. That doesn’t mean you need to keep every photo, but sometimes the only photo you have of a person might be that faded or dark one.
Thanks for that idea. I wouldn’t have thought of using AI for that.